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STRRIIKKEE! Bowling Like A Boss!

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Have you been bowling before? Bowling is a simple, fun activity that people of all ages can engage in. But, I’ll be honest, there is one part of bowling that seemed so foolish and annoying that I used to glare from afar wondering, “what’s the point?”

That thing is the infamous high fivin’ and fist pounding after each player went to roll their bowl down the lane. I mean, let’s just do the numbers here. Each game generally has 10 frames. If you engaged in high fives and fist pounds after each and every player, with just four people playing, you will dish out over 40 hand slaps. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a whole lot of hand slappin’ – much more than I was interested in or excited about engaging in, at least until I did it.

Last Saturday, alongside our good friends who were recently engaged, I went out on a limb and minimized my negative thinking about how foolish and pointless that I thought the act of over engaging in high fives was. And, guess what happened? I had a down right blast! We played 3 games straight and I was all over the high fives and fist bumps AND I even played better than I ever have before. The reality is that high fivin’, not using other people’s balls and avoiding eating near or around the bowling lanes are just the basic etiquette principles of bowling and once I embraced these things and let my guard down, I actually enjoyed the experience.

Scarlet Says… sometimes we spend so much time complaining, whining and trying to voice our concerns about much we don’t like something that we end up missing out on the stuff that we actually just might like. Before you definitively box out the things that you don’t like, give them a try first…you just might be missing out on your new favorite thing.

Until Next Time,



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ASK SCARLET: “I want a friend of mine to stand in my wedding, but I don’t think she can afford it…”

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ASK SCARLET:  I was recently engaged and I have already decided who I want to stand in my wedding as my maids and matrons of honor. Although I want one of my closest friends to stand with me, I am concerned that due to recent circumstances, she can’t afford it. I’m not really sure how to handle this. Should I ask her knowing that she may not be able to participate?

SCARLET SAYS: Congratulations on your engagement! As you know, weddings are expensive; not just planning one, but also participating in one as a bridesmaid, groomsmen or usher. If you want her to stand in the wedding, you should absolutely ask her.  Avoid assuming that she can’t participate. Perhaps when you ask her, you should show sensitivity to the subject by acknowledging that this may be a difficult time for her, but letting her know how honored you would be if she stood in your wedding. When we want to do something, we somehow find a way to make it work and maybe your wedding will be important enough for her to find a way to make it work. If she just can’t make it work, she won’t feel so bad about it, because you would have already expressed your understand, and perhaps she can participate in the wedding in another way.  Happy Wedding Planning!


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Weddings Guests Get Jail Time!

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So, this has surely been a busy season of weddings!

I have been to two very enjoyable weddings within the past month in Detroit and Chicago. It’s been refreshing to actually attend a wedding where I wasn’t working or had at least one task.

I did however encounter the same awkward situation at both weddings. Now, this seemingly awkward situation wasn’t actually awkward for me personally, but I could easily see how this would be awkward and uncomfortable for many people.

I was placed at a dinner reception table with groups of people who I was not friends with nor had I ever met or been around before. Now, when this happens to most people, the initial reaction is to glare across the room at the table with all of your friends at it wishing you had a “get out of reception table jail” card. This is a natural and normal reaction, but the G.O.R.T.J. cards were all on back order, so I had to ride it out.

The amazing thing about these situations that you only grow to appreciate once you ride it out is that you meet people who you otherwise would have not met. Ironically, at the first wedding I sat right next to (on both sides of me) young women who I had attended high school with but had never met. One of them I even maintain contact with now for future business partnerships. At the second reception, I met a table full of young business professionals. The guy sitting next to me actually aspired to be in a field that I have a Master’s degree in, so I shared with him the ins and outs of the field and what to avoid and take advantage of.

As I often do when I meet new people, I asked him, “so, what is your dream job”. He said, “well, something to do with designing training and combining technology to reinforce content retention”.

Throughout our lives we WILL be forced into situations where we will have to sit, dine with and talk to new people. Unless you plan to stay inside and work remotely for eternity, it is inevitable that you will have to engage in small talk and sporadic conversation with strangers. This is why knowing and practicing social and public speaking etiquette is so important. Just imagine if there were someone at your reception dinner table who was able to offer you the job that you always wanted, but you totally rubbed them the wrong way because of inappropriate comments and actions.

Now of course, there is no denying that a wedding reception is really a celebration and a party where you should have fun and be “unstiff”, but knowing how to engage in small talk and carry on a comfortable and engaging conversation with your table mates is a skill set that will be eternally beneficial for you.

…until next time…


– SC

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