Tag Archives: Holidays

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How “Doing You” Can Do You In

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Do YouThe holidays have surely been a fantastic time to get in touch and reconnect with friends.

This past weekend, I had a fantastic time catching up with girlfriends in my home town of Detroit. During our girls time catch up, we always engage in a series of serious questions surrounding annual reflection and our outlook and plans for the year ahead.

One of the resounding messages that I heard within our group was that people were going to focus on doing what makes them happy and not focusing too much on conforming to what people think they should be doing, how they should be looking or spending their time.

These types of messages and plans make me elated, because it’s important for you to be happy with yourself and to be the master of your own journey.

But, I started thinking about how this “do me” mentality can be self imploding if it’s not managed well. The reality of this “do me” mentality is that if you take it too far, you will quickly alienate the same people who you need in order to do whatever it is that you want to do.

Doing you shouldn’t mean forgetting about everybody else and their feelings, desires and wants.  We don’t occupy earth alone, so at least being aware of and understanding that you, and you alone are not the only person to be concerned with is essential to personal growth and progress.

Imagine that your “do you” is starting a business, networking more, being more health conscious, obtaining a raise, traveling, starting a family or even spending time alone. Either directly or indirectly, these things require other people. Consider how much easier accomplishing your tasks would be if you had people to back you up and help you, simply because you considered them, their feelings and their goals.

Scarlet Says…whatever it is that you’re in pursuit of in the days, weeks, months and years to come, by all means do it! You deserve to be happy, accomplished and successful, but so does everyone else!

Dedicated to the F.I.E.S.T.A.S.

Until next time,


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Just Go With The Flow

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This weekend, I had the pleasure of reuniting with my best of friends. While I really enjoyed myself, I came to a very unpleasant reality. I mean, it really isn’t that unpleasant, but considering how most of us think that time spent with others requires a production with mapped out plans and details, it’s just more of a reality check.

I am a certified hostess. I claim it. I own it. I love it. This simply means that I enjoy having people over my home or at my event, ensuring that they’re having a great time and that it’s comfortable and entertaining. This hostess “mentality” transfers to many other parts of my life as well. I genuinely like for people to have a good time and usually, I feel like there should be a timeline or some kind of plan. Now, some of this thinking stems from my past life as a wedding planner, which I’m very grateful for.

But, I came to a harsh reality this past weekend. The reality that, if you’re with the people you love and care about, you probably don’t need an agenda.

Let’s be clear here. I have not been redeemed from making plans, timelines and engaging in my normal hostess-type behaviors. I have, on the other hand, discovered the joy of going with the flow.

Scarlet Says…Over the next few weeks as you connect and reconnect with the people you love and care about, try going with the flow just a little bit. You just might like it…

– Dedicated to Brandi, Maria & Vanessa



Until next time,


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Christmas Gift Etiquette: Show Appreciation for All Gifts

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We’ve all been in those situations where we receive a gift for Christmas that we know we will never use . Whether its just not you or it is completely the wrong size Scarlet reminds you to be grateful regardless of the size or cost of the gift.  Someone thought enough of you to buy/make that gift.

It is important to receive the gift with the same amount of thought that went into the giving of the gift. There is nothing that will offend someone so quickly than someone not being thankful for what they have received. If after receiving and showing appreciation, you decide to return the gift know that there is nothing that states that you are required to keep something that you do not need or like.

For the sake of future gift giving opportunities, take family and friends out to help them understand your likes and dislikes better before the holidays.

Here are a list of things you can do with gifts that you do not want:

  1. Return: Many times gifts are given with a receipt for that purpose.
  2. Recycle by Regifting: But do no regift junk and burden someone else.
  3. Swap: Such as gift cards. If you cannot make use of it, there are websites where you can sell them: giftcardrescue.com
  4. Sell: Have a garage sale, or if you have the tag, sell them on ebay.
  5. Donate: Give it to someone in need, such as a woman’s shelter, a large family, a single parent, or a charity of your choice.

Scarlet reminds you to be grateful for all gifts during the holidays!

…until next time…

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