Category Archives: Wedding Etiquette

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Do you Always say Thank You?

Have you ever given a gift or went out of your way to do something for someone and wondered why you never received any type of thank you in return?

People seem to underestimate the power of a “thank you.” It is a simple gesture that means so much. Remember to thank others for their generosity. Thank others for the little things and not just the big things. You do not always have to write a thank you note but be sure to express your gratitude in someway it is only proper.

A Handwritten note is the most personal way to say thank you!

When considering how long after to say thank you, you should do so right away! This means right after you receive the gift. This shows people that you are appreciative and on top of things!

Scarlet reminds you to always, always say thank you!



…until next time…

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Raise the Bar

It’s Friday afternoon, which means that your work week is coming to an end and you have at least a little time to relax and link up with friends. Scarlet knows that after a long, hard week, a night on the town is always good to shake the stress away. Social events held at your local bars, clubs, and/or lounges are often the highly favored choice to attend when looking to order up your favorite cocktails.  Although they can be a bit costly, it’s the weekend and after all you have been working hard all week.

So, you get to the bar and begin to order up your favorite drink. Although the bartender made your drink just how you like it and got it to you within minutes, you see no problem with leaving the establishment without tipping the bartender for their services. Scarlet reminds you that it is proper etiquette to tip the bartender. Keep in mind that bartenders rely on tips to supplement their income. Tip about 15% of the tab from the bar and if you only buy one drink tip, $1. It is recommended and proper social etiquette to tip at events where there is an open bar as well.

Once again, Scarlet reminds you that when you are having a relaxing night out with a few drinks, and friends, the bartender makes it all possible!



Have a great weekend and until next time…

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Tardy For The Party

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So, it happens to the best of us. We run a couple of minutes behind and sometimes in situations that are really critical.

Imagine running late for a wedding ceremony. What do you do? Skip the wedding all together and just go to the reception? Lurk around the lobby and wait for the let out?

Actually this is one of those situations where you have to evaluate the whole situation to see what is the best decision.

If you really want to witness the ceremony, in most cases, you SHOULD wait until the ENTIRE bridal party has went down the aisle, including the bride. You can then quietly sneak into one of the side doors. Under no circumstances should you come down the middle aisle and cross the “sacred” wedding runner (if they have one).

Now your tardiness may mean that you have to sit on the most easily accessible side. Now is not the time to ask, “which side is the brides side”….just get in and quietly and quickly sit down.

If the venue had a balcony, hosts will likely direct you to sit there and you should happily comply and not try to strong-arm your way into the lower floor.

We all run late for stuff…it happens, but don’t interrupt an important day for your friends/family by not making the best decision on how to handle your tardiness.

…until next time…

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Weddings Guests Get Jail Time!

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So, this has surely been a busy season of weddings!

I have been to two very enjoyable weddings within the past month in Detroit and Chicago. It’s been refreshing to actually attend a wedding where I wasn’t working or had at least one task.

I did however encounter the same awkward situation at both weddings. Now, this seemingly awkward situation wasn’t actually awkward for me personally, but I could easily see how this would be awkward and uncomfortable for many people.

I was placed at a dinner reception table with groups of people who I was not friends with nor had I ever met or been around before. Now, when this happens to most people, the initial reaction is to glare across the room at the table with all of your friends at it wishing you had a “get out of reception table jail” card. This is a natural and normal reaction, but the G.O.R.T.J. cards were all on back order, so I had to ride it out.

The amazing thing about these situations that you only grow to appreciate once you ride it out is that you meet people who you otherwise would have not met. Ironically, at the first wedding I sat right next to (on both sides of me) young women who I had attended high school with but had never met. One of them I even maintain contact with now for future business partnerships. At the second reception, I met a table full of young business professionals. The guy sitting next to me actually aspired to be in a field that I have a Master’s degree in, so I shared with him the ins and outs of the field and what to avoid and take advantage of.

As I often do when I meet new people, I asked him, “so, what is your dream job”. He said, “well, something to do with designing training and combining technology to reinforce content retention”.

Throughout our lives we WILL be forced into situations where we will have to sit, dine with and talk to new people. Unless you plan to stay inside and work remotely for eternity, it is inevitable that you will have to engage in small talk and sporadic conversation with strangers. This is why knowing and practicing social and public speaking etiquette is so important. Just imagine if there were someone at your reception dinner table who was able to offer you the job that you always wanted, but you totally rubbed them the wrong way because of inappropriate comments and actions.

Now of course, there is no denying that a wedding reception is really a celebration and a party where you should have fun and be “unstiff”, but knowing how to engage in small talk and carry on a comfortable and engaging conversation with your table mates is a skill set that will be eternally beneficial for you.

…until next time…


– SC

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