You’ve found the one – the one person who does it for you. They’re pretty much everything that you wanted to have in a mate and things have gone just magically.
So, your relationship progresses, then you decide, let’s expand our relationship a bit. Perhaps you’ve thought, “well, we’re pretty good people, so let’s populate the world with more little people like us”. You agree to procreate and commence to going half on a baby.
Congratulations, the baby arrives and then something less magical appears to begin happening. You and your mate no longer have time for each other anymore. The baby has completely taken over any of the free time and money that you once had.
This is a recent scenario that has been shared with us numerous times and couples are frustrated because they really want that old thing back-the romance, the desire to feel special or just an acknowledgment of the sacrifices they are making to make the relationship work.
So, what do you do if you’re in this situation? What do you do if you feel like your relationship as you once knew it is being hijacked by your children, your career, your parents or your business?
You’re pretty much going to have to revisit the basics. The same things things that you diligently engaged in to initially secure your mate will have to be dusted off and revisited.
Well, guess what? It’s still OK to do these things.
Regardless of which role you play in the relationship, you have an opportunity to make your mate feel special in spite of timing challenges by just revising the simple, little things.
Your career, your children, your entrepreneurial endeavors. All of those things will always require your attention and there will always be items competing for your time. Your mate – the one that once made you feel giddy, special and admired enough to win your heart is still in there.
Scarlet Says…Take the time to tend to what’s important and special to you. You deserve it, your mate deserves it and your healthy, thriving relationship will thank you later.
Until next time,
ASK SCARLET: I was recently engaged and I have already decided who I want to stand in my wedding as my maids and matrons of honor. Although I want one of my closest friends to stand with me, I am concerned that due to recent circumstances, she can’t afford it. I’m not really sure how to handle this. Should I ask her knowing that she may not be able to participate?
SCARLET SAYS: Congratulations on your engagement! As you know, weddings are expensive; not just planning one, but also participating in one as a bridesmaid, groomsmen or usher. If you want her to stand in the wedding, you should absolutely ask her. Avoid assuming that she can’t participate. Perhaps when you ask her, you should show sensitivity to the subject by acknowledging that this may be a difficult time for her, but letting her know how honored you would be if she stood in your wedding. When we want to do something, we somehow find a way to make it work and maybe your wedding will be important enough for her to find a way to make it work. If she just can’t make it work, she won’t feel so bad about it, because you would have already expressed your understand, and perhaps she can participate in the wedding in another way. Happy Wedding Planning!
Many of us have recently made or had an ongoing goal to manage our time more wisely and to be more selective of the things that we sign up for. Well, hopefully you’ve made progress with that goal. One of the biggest places that we fall off of the wagon at is in the area of events. I mean, who doesn’t like to get an invitation to an event? The problem happens when we begin to accept all events without considering the 5 W’s. Why am I going? Where is it at? Who will likely be there? What will I get out of it? Will there be any value in attending?
Now truly, sometimes, you just want to go out, be social and not think too much about it. but embracing that thought process each and every time can surely be consequential to your time management improvement plan. The question that might be plaguing you is, how do I go about respectfully declining an invitation to an event?
Of course, the type of event that you might be declining needs to be considered. There is certainly a different way to respectfully decline a wedding invitation versus a regularly scheduled networking event. Here are a few tips to follow when considering your attendance at an event:
So, you’ve read about the three tips, Plan, Prepare and Engage and you’ve decided, you just can’t do them. Perhaps now, it’s time to respectfully decline. So, how do you do it?
Scarlet Says...There will come a time where respectfully declining an event invitation will be necessary. You cannot and probably should not even attempt to attend every event that you are invited to. Managing your time wisely and deciding, in advance, what you have the capacity and genuine general interest in attending will keep you focused and available to attend the truly important stuff and most important, present to respectfully engage with other people.
Until Next Time,
The time of year has come! It’s wedding season time! With all of this love, joy and wedding bliss in the air, I want to take the time to remind you of important wedding etiquette that will keep you and the happy couple, happy.
So, as you make plans about who your date will be, what you’ll wear and what you plan to fill up on at the open bar, take a moment and take the wedding oath.
YES! Wedding season is upon us and we want you to enjoy, but Scarlet Says, enjoy weddings responsibly by taking the oath.
Until next time,