You’ve found the one – the one person who does it for you. They’re pretty much everything that you wanted to have in a mate and things have gone just magically.
So, your relationship progresses, then you decide, let’s expand our relationship a bit. Perhaps you’ve thought, “well, we’re pretty good people, so let’s populate the world with more little people like us”. You agree to procreate and commence to going half on a baby.
Congratulations, the baby arrives and then something less magical appears to begin happening. You and your mate no longer have time for each other anymore. The baby has completely taken over any of the free time and money that you once had.
This is a recent scenario that has been shared with us numerous times and couples are frustrated because they really want that old thing back-the romance, the desire to feel special or just an acknowledgment of the sacrifices they are making to make the relationship work.
So, what do you do if you’re in this situation? What do you do if you feel like your relationship as you once knew it is being hijacked by your children, your career, your parents or your business?
You’re pretty much going to have to revisit the basics. The same things things that you diligently engaged in to initially secure your mate will have to be dusted off and revisited.
Well, guess what? It’s still OK to do these things.
Regardless of which role you play in the relationship, you have an opportunity to make your mate feel special in spite of timing challenges by just revising the simple, little things.
Your career, your children, your entrepreneurial endeavors. All of those things will always require your attention and there will always be items competing for your time. Your mate – the one that once made you feel giddy, special and admired enough to win your heart is still in there.
Scarlet Says…Take the time to tend to what’s important and special to you. You deserve it, your mate deserves it and your healthy, thriving relationship will thank you later.
Until next time,
How important is it to be culturally diverse? How much do you truly know about your culture, let alone someone else’s?
Whenever my grandparents come over or I go to visit, they always share stories about our heritage or how things used to be. Every time it’s a different story. They could literally go on for days telling just one story. The grandchildren just sit there listening attentively, asking questions here and there. Over the years I’ve come to realize how little I know about my own culture. Then I think to myself, how much do I know about other cultures and customs? If I were to go to a foreign place, would I know the customs and social norms – probably not. Whose fault was it that I knew so little about myself? It was my own, especially in the world we live today. The world is slowly getting smaller thanks to social media and other internet based forums. Anything you want to know or learn about is only a click away. There is no reason to be out of the loop when it comes to different cultures norms and customs, especially your own. You just have to have the urge to explore.
There are so many great ways to learn about other cultures – you just have to find what suits you best. Whether it’s through cooking, traveling, or simply going online and asking somebody what you want to know, there is an infinite amount of information available. These various avenues can help grow your knowledge base and assist you in becoming more culturally diverse. Having this information also helps you when dealing with people and various situations. Knowing where a person comes from or how their cultural norms, aids you in understanding why people do what they do. It will while also help you in making better decisions when communicating, to avoid offending others.
Scarlet Says…You don’t have to be an expert on every culture known to man, as that would be asking too much. However, you should be familiar with your own and the one’s that you often interface with. Get to know people and talk to them. Be inquisitive and ask questions appropriately. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to make some great experiences as you immerse yourself in different cultures.
Until Next Time,
One of the many conversations was around the subject of my mother, Scarlet, or as the world remembers her, Bette. My mother passed away about 3 years ago suddenly and unexpected and consequently, Mother’s Day and birthdays have a bit of a somber undertone. My grandmother (my aunts mother) passed away about 6 years ago after a long battle with a number of illnesses. Although they both left the earth in a very different way, the fact remains that in both instances, someone lost a mother.
So, immediately following my aunt asking about my best girlfriend who had recently lost her mother, she asks me in a concerned tone “so how are you doing”? Considering the situation regarding my moms death, my aunt (and others) tend to periodically check in to see how I’m doing. I responded as I usually always do – “I’m fine”.
But something quite awful happened next. That something was that my aunt said (without being asked a question) “Well, I’m dealing pretty well. I’m not as sad as I initially was.” At that moment, I realize that I had done something pretty selfish.
I failed to ask her how she had been dealing with the passing of her mother. Granted, both of our losses had different circumstances – mine was sudden and hers was over time, but that doesn’t necessarily make the after math any less painful. Also, my mother was substantially younger than her mother (my grandmother), but that factor, while for me was painful, doesn’t negate the fact that at the end of the day we both loss someone.
This same situation happens all the time, especially if the person is older than us. We forget that other people have similar or equally as painful situations as us and that they too are going through something – we all are.
Scarlet Says… in our haste of just living or dealing with our own day-to-day challenges, remember that the world and the people around you aren’t that much different from you. They’re going through similar situations, experiences, challenges, hurdles and pain. Be aware and passionate enough to stop and say, “ok, enough about me, how are YOU doing?”
Until Next Time,
Thursday: If there were a Scarlet Award – an award for someone who exemplifies what it means to be considerate of others, embrace perspectives and has a great sense of style, let us know. This doesn’t need to be the quintessential standard of what “style” normally is. This could be someone who just has their own flare, style or look. Who do you know? Let us know! Post about them on our Facebook wall, by tagging us and them on Twitter or even uploading a photo of them and tagging us on Instagram! We look forward to seeing your posts! Don’t forget the hashtag: #scarletetiquetteweek2015