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Do You Like Sushi?

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“Do you like sushi” is a question that we often ask students in our youth etiquette classes? Most students say “no”, which is always so interesting because we also ask ” who does not like sushi and has not tried it” and many of them raise their hands to this as well. How can you not like something if you’ve never tried it? Well, we’ve probably all been guilty of responding this way at some point in our lives.

Now there are clearly some things that you can probably adamantly say, I’ve never tried it and I don’t want to because its illegal and immoral and we’ll likely agree – steer clear of those items. But, for other things, why not? Why are we so reluctant to try new things – the things that won’t harm, destroy or ruin us? Many times, it’s because, we’re comfortable. We’ve become comfortable, with our jobs, in our relationships, with our daily processes and systems.

The other major reason why we avoid new things is because we don’t know the protocol, the process or the rules around them. Think about how comfortable you become with an idea, an initiative or an experience once you learn that you’re doing it the “right way”.

Scarlet Says…as you navigate your way through this thing called life and are presented with the opportunity to experience new things, take a breath and just do it. Our job at Scarlet Communications is to arm you with the protocol and etiquette that’s necessary for you to enjoy it all. So, let us do our job and you do yours – enjoy life!

Until next time,

Scarlet

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Excellence Takes No Vacations

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This past weekend, I engaged in a unique opportunity to be the guest speaker at a vision board party that my good friend hosted. My role was to discuss how utilizing etiquette and protocol would help transform your board from a vision to reality.

I was honored to be asked and enjoyed it immensely, but I found myself slightly more nervous than normal. There is always some level of anxiety that I experience before presenting, but this feeling was different.

It was the nervous feeling of presenting in front of my peers. Up until this point in my life, most of my presentations were given to clients that do not mingle or cross into my current social or friend circles. But this past weekend, I crossed that line…and I’m glad I did.

Although there was some nervous energy, one thing’s for sure, I did think through and plan for this presentation and did so with the same care that I would for a paying client.

Can you think of a time when you asked a friend to do something important for you and they did, but not at the level or excellence that you expected?

It happens, a lot. We often expect our friends to be more understanding, lenient and patient with us, which is somewhat understanding. But, if something is asked of you, especially from someone you call a friend, why not complete it with excellence? Of course, you can’t give away all of your treasures for free, but if you agree to do something that you are revered, recognized, branded or deemed an expert at doing, it would be most advantageous for you to do it with excellence. Consider that the very people watching this presentation could be your potential paying clients in the future.

Scarlet Says… in all you do, do it with excellence! If you can’t fathom committing to performing with excellence, then Scarlet recommends that you consider declining the request.

Until next time,

Scarlet


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Back Then, Didn’t Want Me…

compensation-for-unfair-dismissal.1Have you ever been dismissed, looked over, counted out, or not given the credit that you rightly deserved? You are not alone! The unfortunate part of being subjected to those things is that while you eventually get over that particular situation, you always remember that undesirable feeling and in future interactions your guard might be up. When your guard is up, you might be so protective about your feelings, that you miss out on an opportunity from someone who is genuinely trying to just help you out.

I recall several times, when someone was just trying to help me out, that I was busy thinking, “but, what does this person really want from me”. Because I was so skeptical and quite frankly afraid of that “used and abused” feeling that I felt in the past, my mannerisms, body language and voice was so disconcerting that I completely turned off the very people who were simply trying to do something selflessly nice for me. Consider that maybe, just maybe, some people don’t want anything at all for their good will. Perhaps they enjoy paying it forward, considering other people and utilizing their resources to help others. Now, this is not to completely embrace naiveté and assume that everyone does things out of the core goodness of their hearts and never wants anything in return. But many times, people do.

Scarlet Says…try to give each situation and person that you encounter a fair assessment and chance. While it is natural to protect yourself and your feelings based on past encounters, be aware of your body language your mannerism and your reactions. One bad seed should not always spoil the bunch.

Until next time,

Scarlet


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Have you been faking it? Well, Scarlet has too…

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93 is the exact amount of days that we have left until 2015. That beginning number of 365 sure did fly by fast, didn’t it?

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Out of time? Rushed? Unorganized? Anxious?

If you do, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. For Scarlet, 2014 has been an absolute flash. Things have went great and other things have absolutely went left.

If you’re with the majority of us, feeling like you just need a bit more time to get it all in, I have some bad news…you won’t get it. You are really stuck with only 93 days left this year to conquer your 2014 to-do’s.

Now following that bad news, let me enlighten you with some good news. Instead of ho-humming your way through the next 93 days, how about maximizing what you have to get what you need accomplished?

And as an added bonus, I’ll even tell you how to do it. As you prepare to wrap up the year, utilizing these simple “Scarlet etiquette hacks”, will help you maximize your time, positively invest in your relationships and end the year feeling like you started – hopeful, driven and focused!

1. Start Your Holiday Card Process Now: It seems to never fail. Every year right around December you start getting that horrible feeling in your gut that reminds you that you haven’t even started writing out your season’s greetings or holiday cards for the year. This time, just start now. Why not at least start putting the list together of the people and organizations that you intend to send out cards to? Believe me. Starting now will save you a lot of headaches later.

2. Make Small Daily to do Lists: Do you make lengthy to-do lists knowing that there’s no way that you can tackle 25 tasks in one day? Well, let’s turn a new leaf today! Instead of making unrealistic task lists, try limiting your daily list to five items or less. I’ve found that it is much easier to do 5 tasks impeccably versus trying to do 25 tasks at your less than best capacity and then feeling bad about not completing the list. Give yourself some slack. Put together a reasonable list that you can accomplish and feel good about.

3. Get Off The Holiday Party Merry Go Round: Very soon, the end of year holiday party invites are going to start rolling in. While everybody wants to be invited to fantastic end of year parties, be honest with which ones you should and should not attend. If you know you’re going to find yourself only being able to spend 20 minutes at each party, consider reconsidering. Just face the facts that you are only one person and that it’s best to prioritize which parties you actually should attend and more importantly which ones are value-add to you personally?

4. Revisit Your Goals For 2014: You actually may have accomplished a lot more than you think you have. When is the last time you visited your goals for 2014? While you may be sulking your days away, being hard on yourself and thinking that you’ve accomplished nothing, perhaps you are much further along than you really thought.

5. Take a Social Media Sabbatical: Have you ever found yourself scrolling through your various social networking pages and beginning to feel guilty about yourself, your accomplishments and what you think you should have accomplished by now? This feeling of void and skepticism about your accomplishments happens all the time. It is a direct result of subconsciously or even consciously comparing yourself to people and individuals who are posting on their own social networking pages. Let’s face it, who can really validate if what others post is true? And, think about how much time you actually waste scrolling and running across the same information that you saw the last time you scrolled? Make an honest effort to take breaks from social media and even take a small sabbatical for a little while if you find yourself on there much too much.

Scarlet Says: For the next 93 days, let’s commit to using what we actually have to get what it is that we need. 93 days really is a lot of time to get a lot of stuff done. Even if you have fallen down, fallen off track or life has thrown you some curve balls this year, you can still recoup. You are still here and you still have a seat at the table. So, let’s make the best of what we have left and rock out for the rest of the year. After all, faking it til’ you make it is just a temporary fix and not a long term solution…

Until Next Time,
Scarlet


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Gracias! National Etiquette Week

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National Etiquette Week

Courtesy of Appalachian Area News

Today kicks off the first of 5 days solely dedicated to etiquette. Scarlet believes that good etiquette should be practiced daily, but this week, we’ll pay specific attention to raising awareness of all people to act with courtesy, civility, kindness, respect and manners as well as rally people to act with good manners in their everyday lives.

This past weekend, I had an experience with a woman named Maria while attending a conference in Massachusetts. This woman was with the catering staff and was setting up the delicious cookies and break related snacks. As I always, do, I smiled, spoke to her and thanked her for her service. Her eyes absolutely lit up in awe and surprise that someone had acknowledged her and thanked her for her work.  She replied “my, you are so nice to speak to me and to simply say thank you”.

Her reaction both made me happy and sad. Happy that I had made her day, and sad that her work and appreciation for it , was rarely acknowledged.  If something as simple as a thank you, a smile and a small token of gratitude makes someone’s day, will it really hurt us to do it?

As you go about your days moving forward, and especially this week, consider how a small token of gratitude to the people we encounter and rely on, could make a significant difference in their lives.

Until next time….

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The History of Passports

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Ninety-five percent of mid-19th century passport applicants were men, although many women also traveled overseas. Ultimately, during that time, women were usually under the protection of men.


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ASK SCARLET – CULTURAL ETIQUETTE

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ASK SCARLET – BUSINESS ETIQUETTE

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