The last few week’s have been an absolute whirlwind in the Scarlet world! Thankfully, it’s been a pleasant whirlwind. The phenomenal feature of our work by Rhonda Walker on WDIV TV 4 has created a great deal of buzz for us and we’re thankful to their entire production team and staff.
This exciting buzz has certainly attributed to our next few months, which are filled with exciting opportunities from dinner parties across the country where we’ll be teaching hands on dinner party etiquette to adults in a fun dining setting, to our venture into our 9th state (Kentucky) and even our first international opportunity in London in October. But, before we hop on another plane, before another taxi is hailed or before we hear All Aboard from the conductor once again, we must pause for this most important cause…
There has and always is this other thing that we are ALL constantly dealing with; the issue of “what’s next”? I am an advocate of continuously looking ahead and asking what’s the next move, the next angle or the newest innovative idea to make some substantial change in the lives that we touch and the work that we do. While there is clearly nothing wrong with that mindset, it can be a detriment to your well-being. I mean, if you’re always wondering what’s next, you’re never truly enjoying the what’s now! You’ll be working, brainstorming, strategizing, sacrificing and grinding all for the benefit of just working strategizing, sacrificing and grinding. Where does the relaxing, traveling, splurging or just being come in to play? When will you just take a mere 24 hours and genuinely be proud of your accomplishments, celebrate just a little, then get back to business?
Try using these 3 tips to ensure that you are celebrating your accomplishments, instead of quickly acknowledging them and whisking off to the next item on your never ending to-do list:
Scarlet Says… if you too suffer from the “what’s next” syndrome, it’s not all bad news. Let’s face it, there are lots of people who live in the now and never in the what’s next, so someone has to do it. But, avoid missing the opportunity to bask in your now. Your ability to celebrate you, your team, your wins and even the painful losses is how you get to your next. While I constantly recommend and advocate that we show good etiquette to others, the ability to show good etiquette to yourself, to be proud of your accomplishments and reflect on them before moving on, is the best recipe for life balance for personal fulfillment and for success.
Until next time…
See the full interview with Rhonda Walker and WDIV TV 4 by clicking below:
Thursday: If there were a Scarlet Award – an award for someone who exemplifies what it means to be considerate of others, embrace perspectives and has a great sense of style, let us know. This doesn’t need to be the quintessential standard of what “style” normally is. This could be someone who just has their own flare, style or look. Who do you know? Let us know! Post about them on our Facebook wall, by tagging us and them on Twitter or even uploading a photo of them and tagging us on Instagram! We look forward to seeing your posts! Don’t forget the hashtag: #scarletetiquetteweek2015
Monday: Kick off your week with positivity and thanks! Write 3 people a hand written thank you note thanking them for something that they’ve done for you. Believe me – they’ll remember and it’ll get you some major relationship building points. We stopped by Michael’s and they have a fantastic sale on thank you cards that you could take advantage of!
Let us know how it goes!
Always arrive on time. Make sure that you’re at least 15 minutes early. Respect the time of others.
These are statements that you’ll continuously hear me saying in both youth and adult etiquette classes. I’m a big advocate of being respectful and mindful of others’, especially as it relates to time. Time is undeniably the one thing in life you can’t buy, barter, steal, swindle or take back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.
So, imagine the utter void in my gut as I was heading to teach a class recently and the nasty conclusion that I would be late became a realization. Traffic is absolutely monstrous in the DC area. Your quick 30 minute commute can easily turn into a one hour and 30 minute frustrating, prolonged and stop and go commute, and that’s exactly what I endured.
As I headed to class, locked and loaded with certificates, cupcakes and an excitement to teach about social networking etiquette, I was overly anxious about knowing I would be late.The traffic was relentless and didn’t let up for even a moment.
So, as I walked up to class, 35 minutes late for what was only a 60 minute class, I inwardly dreaded the would-be conversation. Now, I remind you that I did have cupcakes in hand, so of course, that has the potential to soften any blow. I bravely approached the girls and their mentors who were wasting a little time at the play ground as they waited for me. To my surprise, the girls and the mentors were all smiles when I walked up. I’m sure that apart of the smiles was directly linked to the sweet treats in my right hand. But, much of the smiles seemed genuine about just my attendance.
I immediately apologized for my tardiness, and even used it as a learning lesson of transparency for the girls. After a few moments of chatting, one of the more quiet girls in the class said quietly, “Mrs. Jacqueline, aren’t you always supposed to be 15 minutes earlier”. I replied “yes” and proceeded to tell her a little more about what led to the lateness and what she and I could do to prevent something like this happening in the future.
Quite honestly, this was one of the young ladies, who I didn’t think I was engaging. I was doubtful that she was really retaining or had taken an extreme interest in the instruction. Boy, was I wrong. She remembered almost everything I said and was chattier than ever that day.
Scarlet Says… Surely, there will be mistakes, delays, traffic and things that are completely beyond your control. If you are unexpectedly delayed every now and then, (hopefully) your normal on time, thoughtful and kind protocol will keep you level. Also, be mindful of your energy, messages and impact. As much as we go about our robotic and mechanical-like days, we sometimes become immune to our impact. What vibes, information, positivity or negativity are you projecting for others to pick up on?
Until next time,